Wednesday, April 16, 2008

This Sucks

A friend of mine sent an e-mail that she and her husband are getting a divorce. My heart is seriously breaking for her. Divorce sucks.

I don't know if this hurts so bad because I'm hormonal (see my other blog), or because I'm realizing that more marriages end in divorce than survive, or because it hits close to home. This sucks.

Hubby and I came very, very close to divorce about 3 years ago. It hit a point where no matter what decision was made, we were both going to be hurt, our relationship would never be the same, and any decision would be wrong. It sucked.

I have no words for my friend. All I want to do is cry. It may be worse because an additional friend told me that it's official today; she's a full divorcee. I guess I figure that if Hubby and I could overcome (not that it's all better--our relationship did change, and parts of it will never be the same or even as good as it was before, but parts of it are better than I could ever imagine it would be, and that's the part that makes me believe that I did make the right decision, and that it is God's will that we remain married) what was ripping us apart, I want to believe that my friends could also overcome their obstacles. There is religious reasoning on why I believe that most obstacles can be overcome, and that while Jesus hates divorce, I'd like to think that He acknowledges that separation may be what it takes to refocus and to bring the relationship back. I hate that divorce is the answer. I hate that all I can do is support my friend in her choices and that I can't fix this for her. I hate that this sucks.